I don’t want to be happy… I don’t think you do either.

I don’t want to be happy…

What do you want? Do you really want to be happy?

I don’t think so!

Let’s look at what we humans really want…

I was in a conversation with a friend a few weeks back about the Exit My Job program and we got on the subject of being “happy”.  My friend quickly pointed out that as humans, it is not in our nature to want to be happy. “WHAT?” I said… he went on to explain that most of us chase being “happy” as the end goal in life, but that is not what we really want. How could this be…?

I had never heard a such a crazy statement. But I was curious about what he meant…

Well as we talked I found out it was true, I don’t want to be happy.

I have a feeling you don’t really want to be happy either.  And it maybe the VERY pursuit of happiness that has you unhappy and stuck in life.

So if I don’t want to be happy I must want unhappiness, right?  WRONG! Here’s what I really want… and what I bet you really want…. ready…

I want to be fulfilled, that’s right I want fulfillment in my life. Think about it, if we humans REALLY wanted “happiness” over anything else, why the hell would we go to a sad movie, or listen to a sad song? Does that make you “HAPPY”? No.

Would we ever go on roll-a-coasters and have the crap scared out of us? Does being scared make you happy? No. How about having kids? I have four and I can tell you I was NOT happy with the experience of raising my kids a lot of times – but I WAS fulfilled in being a father.

Now I focus on those things that fulfill me, and I want to help you do the same. So the next time you are looking at some area in life, don’t ask yourself “what would make me happy?”, ask yourself “what will give me fulfillment?”.

I bet you have a dream deep inside that you know would fulfill your very soul and I bet chasing all those “things” that are suppose to make you “happy” have you denying your dream. Am I getting through to you here?

I am saying that you very well might be chasing happiness and denying yourself REAL fulfillment. Why the hell would you do that? Because you are conditioned to do that, you are conditioned to MAKE people around you happy and to be happy yourself.

Think about this, as a society most of us are conditioned to believe that we BETTER be happy and if we’re not happy that “something is wrong”. And, that part of being happy is making OTHER people happy (which is impossible by the way).

So, we all start playing our “roles” in order to make others, and ourselves happy. We try to make our spouse happy. We try to make our kids happy. We try to make our boss happy. We try to make our parents happy. We even try to make total strangers happy.

We buy all the “stuff” that will make us happy. The new car. The new boat. The new house. We  buy all the “stuff” that will make other people happy too. You get the point…

And then comes along banks, big corporations and the media. Here’s how they fit in the mix and make it even harder on us to follow the “Pursuit of fulfillment”.

The banks say “I will loan you some money”, so then you can go to the big corporation and buy some more “happy making” stuff. Then the media steps in and reminds you how UNHAPPY we all are… but wait – here’s a commercial break to sell us some more stuff to “make” us happy just in time! You see the cycle?

So I say screw being happy – I want TRUE fulfillment. Leave me a comment and let me know what you want….

With love,

Bryant